This past year I have been meeting a large number of engaged couples that are really creative and DIY crafty. These couples are really excited and ambitious in their planning to do the majority of the wedding details themselves. I get it, give me pinterest and a glue gun and I can transform a room. But once digging into the amount of work DIY’ing your own wedding really means, many couples start to second guess what they can actually do themselves without losing their sanity or worse ending relationships over the pressure to do it all.
First let me say that I have been in the wedding industry since I was 16. I worked for an award winning family floral shop specializing in weddings in the Bay Area of California. I also had side hustles in the wedding business throughout my twenties as a makeup artist, wedding planner, D.J and into my thirties I started working with a wedding magazine and as a wedding show event coordinator. So you could say I’m really invested in the wedding world. I have attended hundreds of weddings and have seen so many cool ideas! Sadly I’ve also seen some major fails. Because of my experience I want to share some ideas with you as you plan your wedding.
In my new series for the DIY bride, I am going to share with you tips and tricks to make your DIY wedding fabulous, affordable and keep that stress minimal.
In part of this series I want to discuss what vendors are important for you to hire and why. After I will dive into ideas of what you can do yourself or delegate to loving friends and family (thank goodness for them right!)
So here we go, my first suggestion to not DIY is photography. I know this sounds a little bias as I am a wedding photographer, but let me explain why you do not want to hire your uncle Joe with a cool new camera.
My Second suggestion to not try to do yourself is D.J. While I have seen a couple brides attempt some very creative ways to avoid hiring a D.J, it has resulted in some pretty choppy and cringe worthy moments through the wedding. With Ipads and song lists in everyone’s hands, it is really tempting to just hook that up to a speaker and let it run because what could go wrong? Set it and go, right?
I’ve watched Ipads die in the middle of the couples first dance and change songs from the classic bridal walk song to boy band pop while the bride walks down the aisle. I’ve seen the friend that is in charge of the Ipads playlist get a little tipsy and decide to do their own version of song remixing. Sometimes the playlist itself disappears into Ipad oblivion and when that happens, party over.
In order to avoid these stressful situations, here are my thoughts on what value a D.J provides and why you need a professional.
My third suggestion to not DIY is the food. I have been told by couples that they are just going to cook food the night before and I always ask, are you sure? Typically a week before the wedding they are calling a caterer or a family member to take it over because the stress of that additional task gets to be too much to handle. For good reason, food prep and service is hard even if you only have 20 people at your wedding.
Here are my reasons why you should at least hire one person that is familiar with food prep and service to be in charge of food.
I hope these tips come in handy as you plan, I know that whatever you decide it will be the most magical day!
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